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Myriam Ben Salem's avatar

Brilliant exploration, my friend, which comes with no surprise! If I may add something here, I'd say that there might be some exception to the rule for the "achievers" group!

As a former perfectionist or, what is clinically known as a person suffering from an Imposter Syndrome, I used to be a workaholic and top performer!

It wasn't because I had a clear sense of my drive and motivation. Rather because I was deriving my worth from two sources: 1. Achieving and 2. People pleasing!

That is, unless we may come back to our original granted Center before any conditioning started taking place (the Universal Principles/Laws), being an achiever is merely a coping mechanism and can be as unhealthy as the other quadrants, if not more (I had at least 3 burnouts during my IT career in corporates).

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Peoplepreneur®'s avatar

Great addition, Myriam. The 'Achiever' is merely a label for someone who 'achieves' what they desire to do from taking action rather than an archetype of someone who has it all figured out. I was merely suggesting that those who do take action have a higher association with the pleasure of their outcome and a low one with the pain of doing it. I love your thinking; I agree nonetheless.

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Myriam Ben Salem's avatar

Oh I do know what you were trying to explain, my friend! And that's exactly how I used to feel from achieving what I used ro decide I needed to do!

The problem was the motivation (much more telling than achieving, it seems to me)!

A healthy achiever, to me, would feel high pleasure because they served and added some plus-value to the world or community or even one person (while being guided by a principled mission).

An unhealthy achiever like my former version would get a high because they felt important and were able to reassure themselves that they do matter in the absence of any intrinsic worth that was discriminated against!

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Peoplepreneur®'s avatar

Absolutely! Intention is so important here and I'm with you that the outcome that brings about value for people in the world is a MUST.

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