How To Never Give Up
Beyond The Cliche
Today's Empowering Belief
I have everything I need internally to keep progressing.
So I saw this recently posted by someone many people look up to.
Let me ask you, how much impact has this statement made on your ability to continue to act on what you either knew or didn't? I'll take a guess, not far; mentally, you'd end up back to your original thoughts:
Am I doing something right that is taking me somewhere I want to go?
I like the sentiment in the post above, but I believe if it had come from someone in the trenches with you, it would make more sense because early on, we are all learning, adopting and adapting to the feedback we get from our effort.
When you look up to someone who has made some success of themselves, and they say, "hey, just show up, don't give up", it seems pretty selfish. My mind says, is there anything more you can share?
The above is an example of what we can all agree on; it's just an easy way to establish a connection. Generic thoughts like these all seem the most relatable. I want you to understand better what is being said and develop a mindset that challenges the cliche. How could that have been delivered better?
Perhaps contextually like this:
Shift your focus from what is not working to what is consistently fulfilling you. Keep doing the activities that bring you the most emotionally charged feedback; you'll see results before you notice.
This, to me, sounds like something that I can get behind and take action from.
Challenge the cliche
Challenge statements like never give up because without specificity, it's just words with no intent.
Never Give Up….
* In what precisely?
* What should I keep doing?
* What should I stop?
* What worked? So I can try?
*How do I stay in a state of never giving up?
You see, words like never, all, always, every, everyone, no one, Nobody or whatever are what we call Universal Quantifier, which are absolute generalisations that state something is true for everything.
So for the example, "Never Give Up", it seems to suppose that 'whatever' you do is valid and to do it long enough means you will create the results from it. 🤔 Think about this, can someone be doing something incorrectly and do it long enough thinking it's right and never reach the results they want?
You better believe it.
Here are a few examples of how you can challenge these generalisations to gain a better understanding.
"Nobody likes me"
Challenge it - “nobody likes you?”
The response could be, "I've been posting on social media for like three months, and people aren't engaging in my post."
"Why does this always happen to me?"
Challenge it - "It always happens to you?"
The response could be, "It just seems like what I do just doesn't seem to work".
Be more specific; we do ourselves no favours by speaking in such a way. Like saying Never Give Up without context or specificity; it does little to others than what we believe we are doing. It's not actionable, nor does it add depth of understanding.
In the case above, the post did a few things; gave cliche advice with little regard for context, built social credibility for themselves and kept others lingering for a better understanding enticing them to join their services or packages.
Never Giving Up
In my years of hardship, I've always said that hope was why I managed to see through the tough times. Today, I believe it's more than that; perhaps hope was more about having faith. Over the years I become aware of many other factors that I wasn’t aware of that were working.
This is by no means is the only, nor is it in order but key things I believe is a must. So, how never to give up:
1 - Management of Mind
This is perhaps the single most crucial skill you need to master. Learning to manage your mind and emotions is critical to never giving in to the negative. If personal development is not at the top of the goal list you might face may obstacles that seem pervasive in your life.
2 - Faith of Fate
You have a destiny that goes beyond short-term material gains. Do you believe it? Can you see it? How would we know definitively what that is? We don't. We can, however, get close to it. If you do not know what that is, it's the first place you need to begin. What fate is pulling you forward? If the past pulls you, you will not be moving anywhere.
3 - Trials and Tribulation
Learn to accept the good with the bad; you need both [Read newsletter Two Forms Of Growth]. Life knows where you're going and what lessons you need that you'd never give yourself. Reframe anything that doesn't help you by making it serve you. Everyone [yes, all of us] must go through trials; it's a test of our commitment to what we want.
4 - Energise the Emotions
Spend more energy on those activities that bring the most emotionally charged feedback. We can get into a painful place of constantly seeking outcomes from our efforts. Zoom out. See your progression on the bigger chart. If the line on the chart is moving vertically upwards, you're making progress. Don't get caught up trying to shift the line on each increment. What brings you fulfilment right now? Keep that as the motivation, do more of it.
5 - Force of Focus
Focus is the key to our reality; you may know this already, but what you focus on changes everything within us, more specifically the questions we ask ourselves. You do yourself no favours if you dwell on the things that don't serve you. Focus is directly connected to your values; what you value is what drives you. The best way to change focus is ask better questions.
Peoplepreneur® has two key directives; create alignment of the life we live and help you manage and navigate through it.
I believe in you; never give up.
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